Nurturing your most
Important Relationships

with You, Your Boo, and Your Crew!


I think we can all agree, life can be MESSY!

Managing stress, taking care of ourselves and others, finding a way to align with passion…sheesh that is a lot of pressure! 

And sometimes we just need support.

Hi, I’m Jess Ahlum, a pre and perinatal psychologist, coach, and somatic therapist passionate about personal growth, healing, and bettering ourselves through relationships.

From the start of life, we grow through relationships. Throughout time most of the great, and tragic, experiences we have are within the content of relationships. So, the key to health, happiness, and healing…you guessed it…


Start with yourself. Connect with your partner. Parent with confidence…in other words… it’s all about You, Your Boo, and Your Crew!

If you have landed here, you’re probably looking for some support. And I’d LOVE to hear from you. In an effort to kick start our therapeutic relationship, here’s more about me to see if you resonate with my message…


Coaching and Therapies for the Whole(istic) Family

Lifespan human development was my entree into the social sciences. As an adolescent myself (at the time) I focused my major in adolescence and family studies. I was hooked on exploring how the influences of family life shaped a person’s growth. Taking a developmental perspective, it only made sense to look as far back as possible; to the beginning of life. This was when I discovered the foundational stage of conception, gestation, birth, and infancy. We all start here. Today I blend my understanding of human development with mind-body-spirit therapies and coaching to help my clients (of all ages) prevent and heal from relational traumas, and optimize their health and happiness. I use attachment theory, somatics and manual therapies, poylvagal theory, psychoeducation, and integrative coaching skills to help you and your closest people thrive.

Nurturing your most Important Relationships with...


Start with yourself:

Of course we know the most powerful changes come from within. The best thing we can do for the world and the ones we care about is to  get right with ourselves. Practicing self compassion and investing in ourselves can feel super awkward if we aren’t used to doing it. I make it clear how to move forward, in a fun and engaging way. Let’s talk about You! 


Your Boo

Connect with your partner:

After we mature and leave the family home, many of us find ourselves longing for – or living along side of – an intimate partner. These “adult attachment relationships” shape who we continue to be, building on top of our early parent-child attachments. Big time personal growth occurs when you strengthen your intimate bonds. It’s time for You and Your Boo!

Your Crew

Parent with confidence:

Parenting begins pre-conception, so there’s never a “too-early” to tap into your parenting wisdom. Let’s optimize your infant’s mental health, your child’s development, and your lifespan relationships with those you cherish most. For some this might mean mending ties to extended family or friends. Whoever it is you’re longing to love more deeply, just remember, it’s never too late to build connection with your Crew!

My interdisciplinary approach includes...

My Clients are...

  • Living all over the world, engaging in tele-health / virtual services
  • Local to Wilmington, NC and wanting in-home or in-office (face to face) services
  • Highly motivation and open minded
  • Proactively engaged in their health and wellness
  • Wanting a healthcare provider with time and attention to their personal health and wellness journey (who can stick with them throughout life changes)
  • Interested in developmentally supportive parenting
  • In need of tools for better communication, managing stress, and connecting to personal values
  • Working through limiting beliefs, mental health challenges, and barriers to self-esteem


The No-Stress-Jess Method

A playful spirit on the coast of North Carolina, nurturing world peace one relationship at a time. I’m here to listen, help, and coach you through all of life’s adventures. From You to your Boo, and your Crew.